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Written on 2020-10-14T08:21:08+00:00

6 Ways you can be a mindful parent during the pandemic

The Covid pandemic has collapsed our many lives into one. Our lives earlier were compartmentalized into family, work, friends and leisure. Due to social isolation, we’re now confined to our homes and have to play all of these roles simultaneously and continuously.

Parents now have to multitask between work calls, taking care of children, looking in to their education, doing household chores without any breaks. Day after day, week after week, and month after month without a break. It can get overwhelming. As a parent during the lockdown, the first thing you must do is remind yourself that you are doing an amazing job, no matter what.

While we don’t know when the situation will get better here are 6 mindful ways you can support yourself and your family during these hard and stressful times.

1. Accept don’t escape

Imagine this, it’s 9pm you’ve just gotten off a long work call. Suddenly your partner informs you that their Zoom call is going to go on longer than expected and could you handle dinner for the kids. All your plans for relaxation have suddenly evaporated. At this moment it’s really hard to accept this situation.

Mindfulness can help deal with this. By consciously acknowledging the present for what it is we realize our lack of control towards it. Instead what we can control is how we react to it. Most situations aren’t inherently good or bad, they just are. How we feel about this depends on the meaning we give to it. Rain is bad if you need to get to work, it is good if it’s a weekend and you want to beat the heat.

2. Self-care isn’t luxury – it’s essential

During this pandemic, it is fundamental to project calmness and safety to our children. If we project panic and fear they too will be afraid. As parents, we need to preventively reduce stress in the household. Which means we need to take care of ourselves first. Make self-care a priority so that we do not project our own negative feelings and fears onto those around us.

This includes eating and sleeping right, maintaining a schedule with enough personal time to relax and unwind. It also means checking ourselves the moment we feel we are close to being upset. Practice mindfulness to calm yourself down and prevent yourself from lashing out.

3. Make room for change

While this may sound like a statement for major life changes, it also applies to the little day to day situations. The pandemic has already uprooted our daily schedules. As parents, we still like to maintain a semblance of order. Routine helps build confidence and safety that things are normal. But strict routines can also take away from spontaneity.

Our children need those special moments to remember as a part of their childhood. They will remember that extra hour we stayed up to watch a family movie, or that special cake we baked, or playing games together for an entire day. In these days of gloom and despair, these rule breaks will add joy and cheer and bring your family closer together. Don’t miss out on them.

4. Forgive soon and forgive often

As adults, we often want to instill discipline in our children. But these are special times. Let the small mistakes go. If your child hasn’t finished their homework cut them a little bit of slack. They too miss hanging out with their friends and going to school. What they need most from us right now is our understanding rather than our anger.

Forgiveness between adults is usually such a complex experience. We all come with our baggage and often find ourselves struggling to forgive our partners. But now more than ever we must realize that we can’t hold onto pain or mistakes of the past. We must be kind to Ourselves and our partners. If either party is found lacking forgive them quickly.

5. Be grateful

This might sound like a funny thing to say during a global crisis but it’s required. It’s easy to get completely dejected and demoralized due to future uncertainty and fear, but it’s important to keep our spirits up. Especially for the sake of our families.

Practicing gratitude has a positive effect on our mood and our wellbeing. Think of the small things you have that you can still be grateful for. The smile and laughter of your children, the flowers that grow in your balcony, the joy of a shared meal. All of these are luxuries unto themselves. Focus on them and notice how it spreads joy around you.

6. Set a flexible routine

One of the best ways to normalize this situation is to set a daily routine. Keeping it simple and yet flexible works best. For example, when setting a routine for children allow them to customize it. This allows them to practice some degree of control which is heartening. When you set aside time for hobbies let them pick between options you’ve chosen like reading a book, or painting or playing a game. This creates a win-win situation. They get to do what they want but the options are already approved by you.

Parenting by itself can be stressful and thankless job. None of us anticipated or were equipped to deal with the pressure of juggling with work, chores and your kids schooling during a pandemic. But if you follow the tips mentioned you can keep a sense of structure and your sanity!

Practicing mindfulness daily can help us keep things in perspective by reminding ourselves this is only the present and not our default future.

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Parenting with Mindfulness

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Written on 2020-10-14T08:21:08+00:00

6 Ways you can be a mindful parent during the pandemic

The Covid pandemic has collapsed our many lives into one. Our lives earlier were compartmentalized into family, work, friends and leisure. Due to social isolation, we’re now confined to our homes and have to play all of these roles simultaneously and continuously.

Parents now have to multitask between work calls, taking care of children, looking in to their education, doing household chores without any breaks. Day after day, week after week, and month after month without a break. It can get overwhelming. As a parent during the lockdown, the first thing you must do is remind yourself that you are doing an amazing job, no matter what.

While we don’t know when the situation will get better here are 6 mindful ways you can support yourself and your family during these hard and stressful times.

1. Accept don’t escape

Imagine this, it’s 9pm you’ve just gotten off a long work call. Suddenly your partner informs you that their Zoom call is going to go on longer than expected and could you handle dinner for the kids. All your plans for relaxation have suddenly evaporated. At this moment it’s really hard to accept this situation.

Mindfulness can help deal with this. By consciously acknowledging the present for what it is we realize our lack of control towards it. Instead what we can control is how we react to it. Most situations aren’t inherently good or bad, they just are. How we feel about this depends on the meaning we give to it. Rain is bad if you need to get to work, it is good if it’s a weekend and you want to beat the heat.

2. Self-care isn’t luxury – it’s essential

During this pandemic, it is fundamental to project calmness and safety to our children. If we project panic and fear they too will be afraid. As parents, we need to preventively reduce stress in the household. Which means we need to take care of ourselves first. Make self-care a priority so that we do not project our own negative feelings and fears onto those around us.

This includes eating and sleeping right, maintaining a schedule with enough personal time to relax and unwind. It also means checking ourselves the moment we feel we are close to being upset. Practice mindfulness to calm yourself down and prevent yourself from lashing out.

3. Make room for change

While this may sound like a statement for major life changes, it also applies to the little day to day situations. The pandemic has already uprooted our daily schedules. As parents, we still like to maintain a semblance of order. Routine helps build confidence and safety that things are normal. But strict routines can also take away from spontaneity.

Our children need those special moments to remember as a part of their childhood. They will remember that extra hour we stayed up to watch a family movie, or that special cake we baked, or playing games together for an entire day. In these days of gloom and despair, these rule breaks will add joy and cheer and bring your family closer together. Don’t miss out on them.

4. Forgive soon and forgive often

As adults, we often want to instill discipline in our children. But these are special times. Let the small mistakes go. If your child hasn’t finished their homework cut them a little bit of slack. They too miss hanging out with their friends and going to school. What they need most from us right now is our understanding rather than our anger.

Forgiveness between adults is usually such a complex experience. We all come with our baggage and often find ourselves struggling to forgive our partners. But now more than ever we must realize that we can’t hold onto pain or mistakes of the past. We must be kind to Ourselves and our partners. If either party is found lacking forgive them quickly.

5. Be grateful

This might sound like a funny thing to say during a global crisis but it’s required. It’s easy to get completely dejected and demoralized due to future uncertainty and fear, but it’s important to keep our spirits up. Especially for the sake of our families.

Practicing gratitude has a positive effect on our mood and our wellbeing. Think of the small things you have that you can still be grateful for. The smile and laughter of your children, the flowers that grow in your balcony, the joy of a shared meal. All of these are luxuries unto themselves. Focus on them and notice how it spreads joy around you.

6. Set a flexible routine

One of the best ways to normalize this situation is to set a daily routine. Keeping it simple and yet flexible works best. For example, when setting a routine for children allow them to customize it. This allows them to practice some degree of control which is heartening. When you set aside time for hobbies let them pick between options you’ve chosen like reading a book, or painting or playing a game. This creates a win-win situation. They get to do what they want but the options are already approved by you.

Parenting by itself can be stressful and thankless job. None of us anticipated or were equipped to deal with the pressure of juggling with work, chores and your kids schooling during a pandemic. But if you follow the tips mentioned you can keep a sense of structure and your sanity!

Practicing mindfulness daily can help us keep things in perspective by reminding ourselves this is only the present and not our default future.

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We now sit with one eye on the screen and the other on a child or a parent nearby. Over the past few months, we’ve realised work from home brings with it its own set of unique challenges.

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We now sit with one eye on the screen and the other on a child or a parent nearby. Over the past few months, we’ve realised work from home brings with it its own set of unique challenges.

Why are influential personalities embracing meditation?

Influential people around the globe aren’t new to the concept of mindfulness, hear from the experts themselves.